Ohhh! A subject that has recently come up in my life! This’ll be fun~!
I personally see nothing wrong with polyamory anymore, part of me is still trying to discover myself and that’s ok. I’m young and don’t know what the hell I really want, people who think they know at my age are… well let’s just face it, they’re dumb. Myself included because I thought I knew exactly what I wanted, thought I wanted the monogamous… lovey-dovey… let’s get married and have a white picket fence kind of relationship! Go on picnics and have that… Pride and Prejudice kind of relationship… that… Notebook relationship. Die with just that ONE person, relationship. I was so set on it and would see no other way because well… that’s what I was taught. Then I was hit with sudden realization… gay was taboo… being gay wasn’t ok in anyone’s eyes either not so long ago… maybe I should look into this some more… maybe watching Sister Wives with parents saying “disgusting” every five minutes wasn’t helping change my mind any lol. Come to 2018 and now everyone is so much more open and understanding in my family, I came out as gay and they still love me. Not all of them but that’s ok, it doesn’t hurt me. Told them I didn’t believe polyamory was such a bad thing just recently after doing a lot of research and gave some of my opinions. Got my parents to actually say “well… alright… maybe that’s a valid point…” Sat them down and talked to them about things like I did when I was coming out as gay and we all discussed it, gave our opinions and even had dad joke about wanting a second wife (which mom wasn’t ok with lmao but you get the point! They were chill about it.) Talking can work wonders. What really helped me see more into this whole subject was that I got into some relationships that really made me think things over, realize that I’m not quite the person I believed I was, made me realize that maybe I want more… that maybe having just one partner wasn’t what I really wanted. Made me realize I’m not some… churchy vanilla type boy. Hard to explain but I suddenly figured out so much more about myself and I was amazed after my first physical relationship with someone. I was blindsided and dumb to think people were crazy for having multiple partners. Part of it was how I was brought up, though very VERY different people now with brightened minds? Again, my family was very very unopen to anything like that. I figured… hey… they accepted me for being gay finally… maybe I should look into other things with more of an open mind, not be deadset on hating it just because it isn’t the normal vanilla way that society wants it to be. So my thoughts on polyamory now? I love it! Imagine sharing a bed with multiple people whom you love, watching scary movies together and having… basically a slumber party every single night with people you cherish. Treating them each individually with respect and the same amount of love that you treat your other partners with. Having more than one individual to talk about your day with or things you like. The sex lol can’t leave that one out. Maybe having one partner not in the mood for any sex but they’re there to cheer you on and high-five the other partner you’re bangin’ at the moment. Things like that… just imagine all the different possibilities you could have with multiple partners!!! The human contact… bonding… being embraced and embracing others… not just being with one person for the rest of your life. I don’t consider it cheating if everyone is aware of the situation at hand and EVERYONE agrees to certain things. Basically, it all just comes down to talking it over with each other, having respect for one another and being loving towards your fellow human beings. I’ve not experienced it myself.
Sorry this is so horribly long and maybe sounds mumbled BUT I really wanted to write this haha.